In the book Creating an Intimate Marriage by Jim Burns (p. 135-143) suggests five attitude adjustments in marriage:
Criticism shuts down intimacy. No one wants to be naked with someone who is critical!
It is amazing what a simple “thank you” will do to a relationship.
“Do to others what you would have them do to you.” – Jesus Many couples use the rule that says, “Do to others what they do to you” which is a “tit-for-tat rule.”
Control the “If Only’s…”
If only my spouse would do this I would be happy… Happiness is internal. No external action will ultimately fulfill your desire for happiness.
Be intentional. Think of one fun thing to add to your marriage. What did you do while you were dating for fun?
Action: Review the list. Pick only one area to work on and start to apply it to your relationship today.
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